Feb 26

Winners Don’t Try

Growing up we are told:

 “Mistakes are proof you are trying”

“You haven’t failed unless you quit trying.”

“It’s better to try your best and fail than never try at all”

It is impossible to “try” when it comes to effort. The statements above are the softeners we use when we aren’t fully committed or when we want someone feel better for not achieving their result. It’s easier to tell people we tried than admit we were never in it to win.

To prove the point, follow this simple exercise:

1. Put a pen on a desk or flat surface.
2. Try to pick up the pen.
3. Describe what happens.
   1. In most cases people pick up the pen but the directions did not tell you to pick up the pen. The directions were to try to pick it up.
   2. In some cases the pen remains on the desk but the directions did not tell you to leave the pen on the desk. The directions were to try to pick up the pen.

The truth is you do it or you don’t; there is no try. If you are trying to lose weight but the numbers on the scale remain the same then you are not losing weight. If you are trying to be more positive but you still have negative thoughts then you are not more positive.

Winners don’t try they do. If the result is not what a winner expects they do a different activity because it’s not about the activity; it’s always about the result. Winners stay resourceful and continue to persevere until they reach their result.

It’s time to quit trying and just do it. Here are three suggestions:

1. Eliminate the word “try” from your vocabulary. When you use the word “try”, it only makes you feel better when you fail.
2. Make a decision to either do or not do. And realize that trying is not the same, they are two completely different levels of commitment.
3. Commit 100% to your outcome. Play full out. When you are fully committed to an outcome and decide to do what it takes to reach that outcome that’s when you become resourceful and you win.